Friday, August 2, 2013

Is That All He Thinks About???

Yes ladies (and gents?) we're going to talk about it today.  

You know.  It.


Please let me start this book review by saying I'm a prude through and through.  As in wear-my-suit-in-the-hot-tub at my house. In my side yard.  With my husband.  Where no neighbors can see us.

So when my Once Upon the Internet friend Marla Taviano offered a free copy of her book in exchange for a review, I hesitated.  What if someone sees me reading it?  I don't want anyone to get the wrong idea or anything.

I mean for goodness sake - the book came wrapped in brown paper packaging! ;) 

I found parts of this book embarrassing but that's probably more a commentary of myself, rather than the sections in question.

Taviano doesn't take herself too seriously, which is something I love about her writing style (this book included). She never comes across as holier (or sexier in this case) than thou, but rather a work-in-progress muddling through like the rest of us.

The book's primary theme (sex aside) is selflessness - something I'm prone to buck against. She hits the reader with some challenging material, while maintaining an easy-to-read format.  Some of her points didn't sit well with me.  Not sure if its because I disagree, or because she's right and I just don't want to admit it.

Her best piece of advice (in my opinion) - PRAY.  Seriously.  About IT, about marriage, about your relationship, about everything.  I took this piece of advice early in the week - big surprise - it actually worked. 

The prayer went something like this "God - I don't like my husband very much right now.  Could you do something about that?"  I came home to a hubby who (despite having a full/stressful day) greeted me with his good mood.  The mood became infectious.  I ended the day adding a couple of different things he did to my thankful list.

And no "IT" didn't have anything to do with the mood. 

Bottom line: I consider Taviano a marriage mentor, despite the face she and I have never met in real life.


  1. Sounds like it would be an interesting book - with some good points to think about!

  2. Mmmmm. Interesting. Yea, totally never prayed about IT! iT is such an important part of marriage too. I heard a pastor say tat he even considers IT one of the love languages. Fod for thought!

  3. Thanks for your kind words, friend. You'll be happy to know that I don't even agree with everything in the book anymore. :)

  4. I laughed out loud at the caption under the package! I'm a prude, too, so I understand the embarrassment over reading it! :) Did you have to mention selflessness, though?! Ugh, it's so hard to slay that beast!

  5. ummmmmmm we are A LOT alike. I would totally wear my suit in the same situation. looks like I need to read it too.